It’s a realisation, it’s the morning coffee you made
yourself, it’s the deep breath you had to take when you had the first sip, a
state of mind to just maybe remember that deep breath was for YOU, its noticing
there’s a little more to you in every day and noticing yourself or even being
able to reflect on these tiny details at the end of each day and say I did it
for me (as
small as it maybe, it was still for me).
I have heard so many
people say they just feel like they are “existing” I have also experienced this
feeling myself and it is heart breaking, Because you have lost touch of
yourself and what also feels like everything else, you feel yourself going
through the motions and not even thinking. The only thinking I managed was to
take myself in circles of frustration of wanting more but not having a clue
where to start because I viewed it would take something so big to break the
existence I felt I had.
Self-care can be so many things but I’d like to start with
the most overlooked view on it. Everyone feels so much pressure to put
themselves in this serine environment and remove themselves to give themselves
“self-care” but what if we could love ourselves and remember our self-importance
in the everyday things as well, what if we could start by finding a state of
mind where we actually feel important to ourselves first.
Maybe we need to be
able to bring ourselves to the realisation we do already love ourselves first, nothing
has to change, because even when we take time to just be down or process
something, that is then something you have recognised you needed and gave it to
yourself. Cut yourself some slack.
What if we could train our minds to think everything we do
for ourselves is actually for ourselves and give ourselves more appreciation
for doing the small things, like getting up, doing our hair, putting good food
in our bodies or taking time to socialise would we feel better for just being
able to say by doing those we achieved self-care.
Self-care is so personal and we must remember its “self” it’s
something we want or need to give ourselves, don’t feel like you have to do
what every else is doing or even feel like it has to be calm or even good, sing
that song in the car (really badly), dance round that room (and fall a million times in laughter),
watch that series you’ve been dying to start or finish, grab that erotic book (because why
not) no one has to understand what you’re doing long as you know why
you did it (even if the answer is because I wanted to or even if it’s just
cause its something you wanted to try and you didn’t even enjoy you still tried
it for you… well
done don’t forget to tell
yourself that).
Sometimes a starting point is just changing the way you
think when doing the little things, not changing what you do straight away,
take the pressure of yourself to have to do something for yourself when you’re
just not ready yet and find the starting point within. Just imagine everything you think is what
you will feel and keep telling yourself it over and over again, think positive
and let it shine out of you.
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Email: Kristy.robertson@outlook.com
I like the fact that you explain self-care so well, sometimes just allowing yourself to think differently can be just as powerful and positive as doing something dramatic because you think you have to or others expect you to do.
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